EXAMINING OPEN RELATIONSHIPS IN INDONESIA ACCORDING TO THOMAS AQUINAS AND HIS PROPONENTS
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The relationship between husband and wife is an important part of their bond. Recently, there have been many attempts to reinterpret monogamous relationships based on gender equality. One of these attempts comes from open relationships. They are of the view that monogamy is outdated and needs to be modified. Open relationships shift the sexual exclusivity that husbands and wives have had. Each individual in the marriage allows their partner to have sexual relations outside of their legal spouse. This concept was introduced as part of autonomy, equality, and freedom because of the marginalization of women's rights in the family. Open relationships reformulate the concept of happiness in the family. According to them, happiness in the family can be achieved when couples can eliminate jealousy and competition. The arrangement for this happiness is to give their primary partner the freedom to have sexual relations with other people. Because the partner's happiness with others is their happiness, this study aims to provide a philosophical foundation based on the thought of St. Thomas Aquinas as a means to fill the research gap. This article will review how autonomy, equality, freedom, and happiness should be actualized in the family.
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